What’s Your Story? Plus 3 Ways To Change it

Everyone has a story that they tell themselves and others about who they are and how they got from point A-to-B. We all have our own journeys and the story we tell surrounding those journeys can be a powerful tool when it comes to allowing others to understand and relate to us on an emotional level.

Could your life story be keeping your from a bright future?

So today I challenge you to ask yourself, what kind of story are you telling yourself when it comes to who you are as a person and is that story hurting or helping you?

If you are not sure how to answer that question, here are some questions you can ask yourself to help figure it out:

1. How do you feel when you tell your story to yourself?
2. How do you feel if/when you tell this story to others?
3. How do people generally respond to you when you tell your story?

If your responses to these questions provoke a negative emotional/physical response from yourself or others, chances are your story is hurting you and it’s time to make some revisions.

Tweet This: Your story is your own, so own it. The choices you make, today will directly affect your future. Choose how your story ends.

Many of us fall victim to negative self-talk.  Comparing ourselves and competing with others, telling ourselves that we are not good enough and even changing ourselves into something we’re not for the sake of pleasing others. Trust me when I say it’s a trap. It never works and at the end of the day, you just end up hating yourself.

We have all been through bad situations. Sometimes shit just happens, but you can’t let those bad experiences hinder you from moving forward and getting the things you want.

So when it comes to you and your story, here are some things you can do to ditch the negative self-talk, but also create a clear understanding of who you are and where you want to go.

1. Always Look At The Bright Side Of The Situation

I know this is easier said than done, but you should always do your best to focus on the positive rather than the negative. Take the good with the bad, find the humor in the situation and accept the lesson this situation is teaching you.

2. Be Proactive

Every negative reaction should be met with a positive reaction to balance things out. Don’t focus on what you can’t do to change the situation, but rather on what you can do. The answer may not be as obvious and it may require you to get creative. If it’s important to you, you will find a way.

3. Don’t Be Afraid To Switch It Up

Life is about progression and evolution. Our stories change to accommodate whatever stage of life we are in. Think about it… Things that were important to you 3 years ago may not be as important to you today and things that are important today may not be important to you in the future. Sometimes, you have to change the way you do things in order to progress and succeed. Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result is defined as INSANITY.

So there you go guys. If your story isn’t working to your advantage, give these tips a shot and let’s start working on recreating it.

I would love to hear some of your stories so make sure you comment below or shoot me a message at Jcgantt@instigaytor.com if you would like some free advice!